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What to do if you think a young person may be suicidal


If you're concerned that someone might act on a suicide plan, take action IMMEDIATELY to keep them safe.

Here are some things you can do or say if you think someone close to you may be suicidal:

Talk to the person. It is not true that talking to a person about suicide means they are more likely to attempt suicide. It is more likely that the person will be grateful that you will help them. Ask directly: "I am frightened that you are thinking about killing yourself. Is this true?"

Try other things to say, for example:

Remind people of the positive things in their life and give them hope.

Remove any objects that could be used to attempt suicide.

Do not leave the person alone – get help.

Listen without judgement – do not get angry or minimise the problem.

If someone pushes you away and you're still frightened that they're at risk of suicide, the right thing to do is to get help for them. You do not have to worry about confidentiality or their wishes if you're concerned they may kill themselves. There is only so much you can do alone. It's OK to ask for professionals to help you.

Getting help

There are many people and organisations that can help your friend or whānau/family member. Contact the one that is easiest for you.

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Written by HealthInfo clinical advisers. Endorsed by clinical director, Child Adolescent and Family Service, Canterbury DHB. Last reviewed October 2020.


See also:

Understanding depression in young people for parents

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