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Family violence

Ūtongatanga ā-whānau


Phone 111 for the police if you are in immediate danger. Or see the list of support lines below for other local organisations that can help. The list includes It's not OK which has information in 10 languages.

Family (whānau) violence affects many people’s lives. It includes domestic violence and intimate partner violence. Also, child abuse and neglect and elder abuse and neglect.

When a family member is violent towards you, they can be violent in different ways. The violence might be physical, sexual, emotional or psychological.

If you are experiencing violence in your home, it can affect every aspect of your life. It can cause physical injuries and affect your mental wellbeing. You may feel scared and alone.

Abuse is never OK, and neither is feeling scared in your own home. If you are feeling scared or someone is abusing you, there are many people available to help you.

The first thing to do is to tell someone. This can be hard. Sometimes it is easier to tell someone you do not know. You could tell a friend, health professional, the police or a support agency.

There are employment rights for people who have experienced family violence.

The following links offer help and resources for people affected by family violence. There are links for people whose violent behaviour is affecting others. Also, for people concerned about friends and family.

Support for everyone

Support for women

Support for men

Support for the rainbow community

Women's Refuge Shielded Site project

The Women's Refuge has a tool for victims of abuse to ask for help. You can use the tool without fear of it showing up in your browser’s history or an abusive partner ever seeing it.

The Women's Refuge shielded site logo is a circle with the left-hand half shaded in dark blue and the right-hand half white, with an outline drawing of a computer superimposed on it.The Women's Refuge Shielded Site icon is shown here. You will see it on many New Zealand websites including this one. On HealthInfo, it is on the right-hand side at the bottom of every page.

When you see the icon, you can click it to bring up a shielded portal. You can use the portal to contact the Women's Refuge and find out how to make a plan to safely get out of a dangerous situation. You can also use it to learn how to stay safe online and get answers to questions about what comes next.

For more information about the Shielded Site project, follow this link. Warning, this link will appear in your browser's history.

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Written by HealthInfo clinical advisers. Last reviewed October 2023.


See also:

Emotional & physical abuse

Referral & support agencies – assault

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